Girls Coffeeshop Talk

[1MAC]

Originally Posted by Lisa

Quick answer between kids and dinner: There really IS more clutter. His messes are double or triple what they used to be (so much more stuff than he's ever had - it just keeps accumulating the more time goes by). Plus, since we now have kids I spend the majority of my time at home tackling messes made by two kids and a baby. Having him come home and add to that just puts me over the top. Plus, we moved into the home of our dreams 9 months ago - he promised he would do his part so it would be kept nice, and explained his visions of how his things were going to be organized. He had his own bathroom for a few weeks but within days it became knee-deep in dirty clothes, cleaning bottles, and overflowing trash. the laundry chute is 10 feet away but he wouldn't use it. I just couldn't bear to see it look that way - it was such a great vintage bathroom. So we agreed he would move into the hall bath, shared by the girls and guests. He manages to keep it looking okay because it is a shared space. thank goodness we found one solution. He even uses the laundry chute most of the time now. Small victory.

Did you read my post about how many thousands of dollars he spent fixing up the basement, which is now so covered in junk you can hardly walk through it? Why bother to stain concrete and replace knotty pine paneling when all you end up with is a very nicely finished catch-all? He had promised I could have the laundry room in the basement as my very own space. It now has 2 old doors leaning against the wall, boxes of electrical parts sititng on the floor, and tools filling up the windowsill. And a mountain of moving boxes sitting in the middle of it that have been there going on two weeks. This is the kind of stuff I'm talking about. To me it seems pretty extreme. Almost pathological!

Well, that was another big rant. So cathartic. I can't imagine what you guys must think!

Yikes. That does sound pretty bad. I wish I could offer some helpful advice, but I have never been able to motivate someone else to do what I want them to do. It's tough to get someone to change their ways, even when they see there's a problem.

[Lisa]

Originally Posted by 1MAC

Yikes. That does sound pretty bad. I wish I could offer some helpful advice, but I have never been able to motivate someone else to do what I want them to do. It's tough to get someone to change their ways, even when they see there's a problem.

So true - motivating someone to do what you want them to do is pretty futile, unless they are your kid and you can just threaten them with no TV or reward them with a Junior Mint.

[redshirt1957]

Originally Posted by Lisa

So true - motivating someone to do what you want them to do is pretty futile, unless they are your kid and you can just threaten them with no TV or reward them with a Junior Mint.

I'm pretty simple minded. The wife gives me a Senior Mint and I do what I am told.

[1MAC]

Lisa,

Look familiar?

[Lisa]

Oh, Mike - that's close! Just substitute empty Boost bottles, Power Bar wrappers, surgical hats and masks, a few books and manuals, and a half dozen warm up jackets.

Okay, he's not quite that bad. Thank goodness someone out there is worse!

[Lisa]

Originally Posted by redshirt1957

I'm pretty simple minded. The wife gives me a Senior Mint and I do what I am told.

Remember the movie The Stepford Wives? There should have been a sequel called The Stepford Husbands.

When Vukota finishes his zombie thriller, we'll reel him in and get started filming. Really, Zombie Husbands has a certain ring to it.

I'm really sorry, guys. All kidding aside, I need to give this a rest and stop airing the dirty laundry. So to speak. Thanks for listening and helping me find humor in all this!

[away36]

Originally Posted by Jimbits76

Awwww Nancy, you're one of my favourites!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

J

Awww shucks....thanks, Jim! YOU make me laugh out loud more than anyone
on TRF.

[away36]

Originally Posted by Lisa

You'd think! What I really need is a good gripe session about my neatness-challenged husband - I think I'm letting it get the better of me and I'm having serious divorce fantasies. However, I can't bank on Joe marrying me because I have a feeling if I showed up on his doorstep he'd say, "You didn't really think I was serious?" So I'm stuck, and in need of a solution, or just better pills.

Yesterday I was just about to take the camera and post a bunch of pictures of the "Problem Areas" - his car (the only seat not covered with trash and junk is the driver's seat - impossible to carry any passengers), his half of the garage (reason why he parks outside), the basement, his closet.... and get some opinions about whether this is normal - or perhaps, if it's normal for me to be so po'd about it!

He's driving a $34,000 car, paid thousands to have the garage doors widened and a new floor poured, thousands more to renovate the basement, and then he just trashes everything out like some bum! Not to mention, our old house STILL can't be put on the market (we've been out since Dec.) because his junk is still all over the insides and the garage. So there's an $800 per month storage unit. It's just nuts. And he's VERY defensive about it.

Rant complete. Until the next post.

Hiya Lisa! Been away for a few days and just catching up on threads. Scrolled through this one because I can SO identify with your situation. Al is EXACTLY the same. We gotta head out and bring the boat back from out of town, but I'll be back later to add a few words!!!

[Jimbits76]

Originally Posted by away36

Awww shucks....thanks, Jim! YOU make me laugh out loud more than anyone
on TRF.

Huh...that aint the response I'm after!!!! I'm always trying to be deadly serious!!!!!!

Lisa...I pity you but then I pity all ladies being married to men. Remember, it ain't in the instruction booklet that came with us but at weekends we just fail to function...spesh when sports is on or there are boobs on tv!!!!!

J

[mailman]

Originally Posted by Jimbits76

Huh...that aint the response I'm after!!!! I'm always trying to be deadly serious!!!!!!

Lisa...I pity you but then I pity all ladies being married to men. Remember, it ain't in the instruction booklet that came with us but at weekends we just fail to function...spesh when sports is on or there are boobs on tv!!!!!

J

Boobs Where

[Jimbits76]

See!!!!!!

Claire always bleats that I flick and channel hop too much yet as the images flick past and I spy a set of nips...she then moans that I stop channel hopping!

Women!!!!

J

[Carolina]

Originally Posted by Lisa

Carolina, how is life treating you with two kids in school all day? Got your box of Godiva in bed with you, and the TV going?(yeah, right!)

Hi!!

We've been away for the past 10 days up in CT at my brother's wedding. What fun! I got to paint my toes pink, wear my pretty shoes, drink wine, and dance until the wee hours (well, actually 11 pm, since the kiddos were getting sleepy)!! There was even an older gentleman who mistook me for Sara Palin , and then the overly laquered and hairsprayed twit who tried to turn the comment into a political harangue.

Lisa, I'm sending over my hubby and a bulldozer to clean out your basement!

[Carolina]

BTW, I missed you guys. Even you, Joe!

[Lisa]

I've been wondering where you were, woman! Glad you had fun at the wedding. Connecticut. Bet is wasn't as hot there. Nice to have you back and I'll take you up on the bulldozer offer!

Sarah Palin? See the "Met Any Famous People" thread!

[redshirt1957]

Originally Posted by Carolina

BTW, I missed you guys. Even you, Joe!

I feel the love!

Sara Palin? Pant...pant....

[Carolina]

Originally Posted by redshirt1957

I feel the love!

Sara Palin? Pant...pant....

Oh well, at least he didn't mistake me for John McCain!

[Lisa]

Originally Posted by Carolina

Oh well, at least he didn't mistake me for John McCain!

Carolina, as I recall from your wedding pix you do bear quite a resemblence to Sarah Palin. Ya think?

[Carolina]

Originally Posted by Lisa

Carolina, as I recall from your wedding pix you do bear quite a resemblence to Sarah Palin. Ya think?

No, I don't disagree! Plus, I had my hair in an up-do at the wedding, which probably helped. And - strangely enough, my dad bears a striking resemblance to John McCain!

[Jimbits76]

McCain...is he the guys who makes the oven chips?????????

J

[away36]

Originally Posted by Jimbits76

McCain...is he the guys who makes the oven chips?????????

J

[Carolina]

Originally Posted by Jimbits76

McCain...is he the guys who makes the oven chips?????????

J

French fries! French fries!

[away36]

Originally Posted by Carolina

French fries! French fries!

I'll have a large order please.....lots of salt!!!!

[Liz@7]

Hi Everybody! I'm newbie here.

[Carolina]

Originally Posted by Liz@7

Hi Everybody! I'm newbie here.

Hi Liza, it's great to have another girl here!!

[Lisa]

Hi Liza! You're TR's wife! (Heru, isn't he?) We think you are lovely! And your two little boys are darling, too! Welcome.

[Rockrolex]

Originally Posted by away36

I'll have a large order please.....lots of salt!!!!

Don't forget the ketchup (or vinegar if you're from New England).

[Lisa]

Good morning, gals.

Here's how to tell you've been married too long: husband doesn't come home last night and you just assume he was on call.

Advice to my daughters: don't marry a physician. It's probably okay to become one, but just don't marry one.

[redshirt1957]

Originally Posted by Lisa

Good morning, gals.

Here's how to tell you've been married too long: husband doesn't come home last night and you just assume he was on call.

Advice to my daughters: don't marry a physician. It's probably okay to become one, but just don't marry one.

Your hubby was on call. In my lurid past I would have been on a call girl.

[Lisa]

Originally Posted by redshirt1957

Your hubby was on call. In my lurid past I would have been on a call girl.

My hunch is he was interviewing maids.

[redshirt1957]

Originally Posted by Lisa

My hunch is he was interviewing maids.

Where are the smilies on your post!. Was going to make a joke about knocking on your backdoor, but could not find a way to make it sound normal..