I returned a watch, did I make a mistake?

[reposado]

There’s watches, and there’s watches that are bought for you by significant people. The special thing about that Datejust wasn’t the dial.

[Calatrava r]

Who knows where it goes from here. It will be interesting to see if you get anything on your list. The fact they had a OF WG Daytona available in December means they have decent supply relative to their demand.

[hutchbth]

I guess it is okay to move on. There are plenty other options out there.

[cpmorgan94]

It sounds like you handled the situation really well. You were polite, respectful, and clear about your preferences without burning any bridges. ADs understand that tastes change, and it's great that you expressed your interest in specific pieces for future opportunities. No harm done as long as you maintain a good relationship with the SA and stay patient for what's on your wishlist!

[DougUSMC]

Originally Posted by WatchGuy1966

In about 9-15 months, you are going to be hankering for a white dial watch

I already am, but it's not a DJ. It's something far more difficult to get...

[77T]

Doug
I'm going to answer a question you didn't ask at the outset.

Never return a meaningful gift that a spouse gives you. Go back to the AD and get the case back engraved.

Tell her you had third thoughts...

[Calatrava r]

Originally Posted by 77T

Doug
I'm going to answer a question you didn't ask at the outset.

Never return a meaningful gift that a spouse gives you. Go back to the AD and get the case back engraved.

Tell her you had third thoughts...

From what OP says, this was not a meaningful gift. The store just had the watch. Wife did not seek it specifically as a special suitable gift to OP. Both understood if it did not suit it would be returned. OP never asked about returning the gift from a hurting wife's feelings standpoint. It was understood it would not. His only concern was how the AD would view it for future allocations.

[77T]

I stand by my opinion.

It doesn't resonate with you and that's OK.


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[DougUSMC]

Originally Posted by Calatrava r

From what OP says, this was not a meaningful gift. The store just had the watch. Wife did not seek it specifically as a special suitable gift to OP. Both understood if it did not suit it would be returned. OP never asked about returning the gift from a hurting wife's feelings standpoint. It was understood it would not. His only concern was how the AD would view it for future allocations.

Originally Posted by 77T

I stand by my opinion.
It doesn't resonate with you and that's OK.

It's ok, get it, both perspectives.

I used to be of the same mindset as 77T, but I had to "be corrected" by my wife.
I used to think it was crazy to exchange a gift that someone had given me.
I also used to refuse to start eating dinner until she sat down.

Then she clarified to me:
She *hates* it when she feels the need to keep something that isn't her preference. She *loves* it when I don't try to find "the right one", so she has to feel guilty. As with the watch, she prefers to get something that's not really close (she knew the white DJ wouldn't be "it" for me), so there's no guilt.
She *HAAAAATES* it when the kids and I let dinner get cold because we're waiting for her. She wants us to eat while it's hot, and gets mad when we don't.

I had to learn:
It's about respecting HER wishes, not honoring my own perspective of right and wrong.
Insisting on not eating 'til she sits, or not exchanging a gift because she got it isn't that. It's putting MY perspective on feelings above hers.

I had to learn to let go of my wants to better respect hers. It's a really weird, backward way of thinking for me, but that's ok: I'm respecting her wishes and that's what's important.

[Akacoke]

A lot of sensitive people in the world. It's so awesome that your wife isn't one.

[Daytona king]

Originally Posted by DougUSMC

I already am, but it's not a DJ. It's something far more difficult to get...

Man oh man I hope that explorer 2 polar works out for you! lol jk. I hope you get your panda. It is an Elusive beast. If one of our members see the word I used for a white dial Daytona he will write a short book about pandas so I must stop here. Like I said previously. Best of luck and keep us posted!


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[DougUSMC]

Originally Posted by Akacoke

A lot of sensitive people in the world. It's so awesome that your wife isn't one.

She isn't "most" of the time. She grew up with 3 brothers, so for the most part she isn't. Every once in a while something catches me completely off guard though, which is confusing!

Originally Posted by Daytona king

Man oh man I hope that explorer 2 polar works out for you! lol jk. I hope you get your panda. It is an Elusive beast. If one of our members see the word I used for a white dial Daytona he will write a short book about pandas so I must stop here. Like I said previously. Best of luck and keep us posted!

Lol, nice plot twist! I actually do have a polar in mind, but was talking about the panda. IDK that I'll ever have the spend for one. I'm thinking I'll eventually have to get that from the grey.

[CaptT]

Doug, you’ve handled the criticism here for your decision quite well. Good luck in getting the watch that you want, which will no doubt be special given the strong relationship and understanding with your wife.

[kwc]

Originally Posted by vinny84

I wouldn't care what an AD thinks but personally I would keep any watch my wife would buy for me as a keepsake and reminder of how special she is.

Agreed! Sold a 2000 Exp II that my wife gave me for an anniversary to trade on a 2024 no date Sub and although I love the sub, I feel like I was a real tool to do that!

[sys999]

lol worried about the relationship with the AD and not the wife for returning a gift smh