Started with a text message

[mikey]

My friend met this girl and and nine months later a baby girl was born! She was 18 and he was I think 27 at the time. He got an apartment, so there was a place for his new family. Problems arose when he would go out with his friends and leave his girlfriend and baby. She suspected he was not saving any money. He would have random sexual relations with others and take a shower and put the same clothes on before going home. He did this freely as I am his best friend and he told me. Now, one day he saw a text message on his girl's phone from someone telling how good of time he had the other nite!. My friend kicked her and the baby out the apartment after a huge fight! Now my friend had been with women that openly slept with other men and he knew he was the other guy and took his money and trashed his car. Anyway, the courts gave both 50/50 custody of the baby girl and he pays no child support. She told the judge she didn't want child support and did not pursue it. She calls him worthless everytime he picks his daughter up at the specific times. Thanksigiving's deal was half day for both and yesterday he called crying that he recieved a certified letter for breach of the custody agreement with a court date. My question is would this mess up his agreement because she wrote lies in her statement on him cussing? or do you think she has grown up and wants child support? Any and all comments please.

[Omega_Precision]

Originally Posted by mikey

My friend met this girl and and nine months later a baby girl was born! She was 18 and he was I think 27 at the time. He got an apartment, so there was a place for his new family. Problems arose when he would go out with his friends and leave his girlfriend and baby. She suspected he was not saving any money. He would have random sexual relations with others and take a shower and put the same clothes on before going home. He did this freely as I am his best friend and he told me. Now, one day he saw a text message on his girl's phone from someone telling how good of time he had the other nite!. My friend kicked her and the baby out the apartment after a huge fight! Now my friend had been with women that openly slept with other men and he knew he was the other guy and took his money and trashed his car. Anyway, the courts gave both 50/50 custody of the baby girl and he pays no child support. She told the judge she didn't want child support and did not pursue it. She calls him worthless everytime he picks his daughter up at the specific times. Thanksigiving's deal was half day for both and yesterday he called crying that he recieved a certified letter for breach of the custody agreement with a court date. My question is would this mess up his agreement because she wrote lies in her statement on him cussing? or do you think she has grown up and wants child support? Any and all comments please.

Did you not see my "Tiger Woods" and "Technology and cheating thread"...it doesn't surprise me, since I have stupid friends that are like this.....: thumbsdow: thumbsdow

I am not an attorney but a bean counter....so I can't really give you advice on the situation....but Daaaaayaaaam!!!!...your friend was doing some funny business.

Grown @ss man hooking up with 18 year olds....but I am not here to judge.

[mikey]

^I just read your posts. Believe it or not but today was his visitation based on court order and she violated the terms with a police report filed today. I don't understand what dummy gave her advice to file a motion and contradict herself violating the same court order with proof 1 week from the court date. I agree 18 years old is too young for a long term relationship.

[gettocard]

man...this is Jerry Springer stuff...

[Brunotheboxer]

I feel bad for the baby girl.

[sakuraba]

Originally Posted by Brunotheboxer

I feel bad for the baby girl.

kids shouldn't have kids

If they were just dating, he could easliy walk away. Life gets complicated with kids.

[keschete]

The looser is the child! I am on the kid's side! Maybe they need to give the baby to a responsible human being.

[1000ftSub]

Originally Posted by Brunotheboxer

I feel bad for the baby girl.

x2

[kyle L]

Originally Posted by Brunotheboxer

I feel bad for the baby girl.

I hate when these things happen and then the kids are stuck in the middle of it.

[Pep04]

Sorry to say but your friend is a total a$$hole. He's not even a man in my book. First for dating or going out with an 18 y/o and then not wearing a rubber.

But, when that happens, he had to man up and become a father. He didn't. And he had double standards.

Now, he is going to lose visitation rights. Depending on the state, she can come back on the grounds that he kicked her and the baby to the curb. Sorry, but a real man doesn't do that.

I have a 4 month daughter and if that were my situation, kicking my daughter to the curb to get back at my wife would be the last thing to do.

Why is he so concerned about visiting with his daughter when he kicked her to the cold before?

I saw screw him, with all due respect being him your best friend.

[Saxon007]

Originally Posted by Pep04

Sorry to say but your friend is a total a$$hole.

Hard to argue with that.

It's a shame some people don't have any sense of responsibility. Unfortunately the child is going to be the one who pays for her parent's immaturity and selfishness.

[Taffi Abernathy]

It started with a text message? I beg to differ; it started with two immature people whose hormones overrode whatever modicum of common sense they possessed. It's ending with an innocent life not having parents upon whom she can depend for love and stability; hardly an optimal start to her young life. Unless these two parents can pull it together for their child's welfare, she will likely grow up scarred and emotionally handicapped.

[ocwatching]

that's what I feel bad about...the kid caught in the middle

here we have two immature people having kids...and I have friends in their mid-30's professionals and WANT KIDS...but are having problems and she is going thru hormone/IV treatment...

life is sooo unfair..

[Watchdog]

Just a shame that the innocent child will have to deal with these two parents for the next 50 years (or more).

[keschete]

Originally Posted by taffi abernathy

it started with a text message? I beg to differ; it started with two immature people whose hormones overrode whatever modicum of common sense they possessed. It's ending with an innocent life not having parents upon whom she can depend for love and stability; hardly an optimal start to her young life. Unless these two parents can pull it together for their child's welfare, she will likely grow up scarred and emotionally handicapped.

amen!!!!!!